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Adultery of a female only, not a male:

1. There is a need for confession and repentance.

How to confess through prayer: For example, you may say this:

Dear Father in heaven, I have sinned and committed adultery. I have abused my “oneness” with my former husband, and broken the purity of your divine institution of marriage. I have destroyed my chastity. My marital relationship and the opportunity for its continuance is ruined. Please forgive me, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, amen.

2. Need for divorce:

Even King David had to put away some of his wives after they became defiled. They lived as widows. He didn't have sex with them any longer. He could not have sex with his defiled concubines (a fulfilled prophecy of Nathan the prophet) after the treachery of Absalom (2 Samuel 12:11, 2 Samuel 16:22); they lived as widows (2 Samuel 20.3).

There is obviously a difference in the way victims are treated. They receive living support whereas the willful adulteress received the death penalty (Lev. 20:10).

Implement separation, sexual abstinence and damage control: Live single; remarriage is not permitted.

Separation is not legal divorce (put in writing). It is a commandment for a woman not to be divorced. Of course, this is concerning clean marriage, not one of fornication or female adultery, which should be annulled or dissolved.

God can forgive a sin of female adultery, but the woman will have to bear her defilement. Even though she may be cleansed through repentance and confession, her chastity and one male cognizance (a requirement for marriage) cannot be restored. Thus, a life of singleness would be required.

Discern between the clean and unclean: Failure to recognize adultery-defilement perpetuity:

Billy Graham and others

John Piper Uncleanness

Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

Find healing:

Rape and Healing

Elizabeth Smart Kidnapping and Rape

After Defilement: Avoid Improper and Unwarranted Desire

Old Testament Analysis and Comparison:

Death Sentence or No Protection from Divorce

Fornication: Need for divorce

Fornication (Mt. 19:9) gave reason to separate or divorce from the once assumed unity. Every married man has a responsibility to keep his wife under every circumstance, except one: if his wife is unchaste, that is, if his wife has partaken in a sexual act with someone else. This could have been fornication while betrothed or dating, before consummation with the divorcer.

However, it seems to me, thinking in terms of an extended meaning of the word fornication other than in Mt. 19:9, such as lesbianism, a man would also (for family cleanliness' sake) have to put away a clean woman who became defiled after his consummation with her. Then, and only then, is the husband lawfully (according to the Bible) allowed to hate the deed and uncleanliness and put away his wife, and to separate from her. Logically, if a woman has committed a horrible sin of fornication of some type with someone, a bill of divorcement does not induce her to become unchaste--she has already committed the act which defiled her. So, putting her away for sexual defilement reasons is not as putting her away for personal dislike reasons, which would cause (Matthew 5:32) her to commit adultery.

A man must provide cleanness for his home: He can't allow a defiled wife to pollute the whole family and land.